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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my husband has a lot of responsibility for how I feel about my body.  He is literally the only person who sees me naked and the only person who can make explicit sexual comments about my body.  
If DH wasn’t constantly telling me that he likes my body, that he wants to see me wearing xyz, and that he likes one body part or another, then all of my thoughts about my body would be from inside my own head or from my mom.  And those are both terrible.  [/quote]

You really need to work on that voice in your head.[/quote]

I’m okay, really.  Terrible was probably a strong word to use.  But the reality is that I’m an overweight middle aged mom.  I’m not winning any beauty pageants.

It’s just that DH tells me something that he finds attractive about me pretty much every time I see him, so multiple times a day.  If I’m going to the gym, he will tell me that he likes my hair in a ponytail so my neck is exposed.  If I’m getting home from the gym, he will say that I look good all flushed like that.  If I’m in taking the kids to the pool in my middle aged mom tankini, he will say that my butt looks good.   If I go in my high waisted bikini, he will wolf whistle and ask if I need help putting sunscreen on.  Like touching the torso of his wife of twenty years is super hot and somewhat forbidden.

You might say that men can’t help their wives with body image issues, but they definitely can.   
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I think I will be single for the foreseeable future if that's the bare minimum we need to do as men. Seriously why do you need me to keep telling you you are still beautiful and multiple times a day. Hey good for you though. Are all married men like this? Wow [/quote]

The ones who regularly get laid are. [/quote]

Meh.

I do not know any woman who needs this much attention from their husband.

I am mostly close to first and second generation American women though so maybe there is something in the water here.

Recent immigrants have accepted that men and women are not the same. They rely on their social network for a lot of support. They rely on men for some but not anything near as much as this thread is indicating.[/quote]

I certainly do. And unless these women are sleeping with their girlfriends, its doubtful theyre getting their fill of sexual desire from them.[/quote]

Different strokes I guess.

You can get self esteem boost from people other than your spouse. You don't need your spouse telling you are beautiful all the time if other people do. You need it sometimes, sure. But not every day.

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The day a woman starts getting sexual fulfillment and her sexual desire needs filled by someone else, is the beginning of the end of the marriage. And certainly not a day when you will be able to expect enthusiastic sex from her (unless she's fantasizing about the other person the whole time) [/quote]

You assume that the person giving you sexual fulfillment has to be responsible for your self esteem. I don't. And most of the women I know don't.

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Yes, the person who gives your sexual "juice" (feelings of desire and being desired) is the person you want to have sex. That's why women often have affairs that start with emotional connection, and then it rolls into sex as well. [/quote]

I get what you are saying but I dont completely agree.  Emotional affairs start well before "sexual juice" happens. Usually people who carry emotional affairs are not necessarily looking for sex or the feelings of being desired. They want to feel heard. These two needs are separate.

When people have crushes at work, its not because their co workers sexually desires them. It's because these people engage with them.

So if your argument is that men have to engage in frequeng discussions with their spouses, I agree. But they don't necessarily have to give them daily compliments on their beauty and sexual desireabilty. Nothing wrong with that, but it' not necessary in most other cultures. [/quote]

LOL. Emotional affairs and sexual "juice" happens at the exact same time. Women can read men's faces, and desire is often one of the most visible male emotions. When that male coworker or friend is staring at her body, or looking at her across the room with lust... that's the juice flowing. When he says how beautiful she is, how gorgeous she is in that dress, how lucky her husband is, etc... that's the juice. It's a flow and a buildup and a process, and the emotional connection and the male desire flowing into her and unleashing her own desire is a huge part. But many men will never get this which is why a handful of charismatic, sexually confident men corner the market and the rest of y'all just whine and complain and jerk off alone.[/quote]

So you think all these women with work crushes have these crushes because men at work tell them they are beautiful or look at them with sexual desire? You are completely wrong. Lol[/quote]

Absolutely. The crushes that actually lead to sex do[/quote]

Good that you narrowed it down to " crushes that lead to sex".

Most work crushes do not lead to sex. In most cases women are attracted to men who are being nice to everyone without any sexual intention. Many times these women are not the men's type but the men are decent humans who engage politely and attentively with everyone at work.  [/quote]

sure. Hence proving everyone's point- the guys who actually get laid are the ones who show their sexual desire to a woman. You seem clueless with women[/quote]

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