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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you wait, be prepared for fertility struggles. I’m 32 and just had a 2nd tri miscarriage which has been heartbreaking. [/quote]

That likely would have happened in your 20s. Two unplanned kids for me at 34 and 37 from sex one time in years for each. Instant. I was not trying (and was not happy about it). People with fertility issues in their 30s usually would have it in their 20s. I had a friend who did IVF in her 20s. Often it is not age until you are 40 plus. [/quote]

Wrong. Studies consistently show that fertility begins to decline significantly after age 33, with a sharper decline after 35. Women in their 20s are far more likely to conceive naturally and avoid fertility issues compared to those in their 30s or beyond. While it’s true that some people experience fertility problems in their 20s, the majority of infertility cases are age-related and become more prevalent as women get older. Suggesting otherwise is irresponsible and spreads dangerous misinformation.

Your anecdotal experience of conceiving easily in your mid-to-late 30s does not reflect the norm and doesn’t negate the science-backed reality of fertility decline with age. Misleading others into believing that fertility struggles in your 30s are no different than in your 20s is harmful, especially to women trying to make informed decisions about their family planning. Stop spreading false information—it does a disservice to those who rely on accurate data to navigate these sensitive issues.[/quote]

NP but I also totally disagree with you. Most women without fertility issues will have zero issue conceiving at 35+, and a lot of women who discover those fertility issues later on are realizing theyre infertile after years of being on birth control or thinking they "were just lucky" not conceiving, when the issues existed all along. Sure, the earlier you figure it out, the more time you have to address it. But for the most part those fertility issues always existed, totally independent of age, and it's just something that starts to dawn on many women once they hit their late 30s and the relief about not getting pregnant "too early" is replaced by a realization that something may be wrong. So, so many women conceive effortlessly in their late 30s and 40s, and that's really most cases unless you (or your husband, as sperm quality has a MASSIVE effect on this) have preexisting fertility problems.[/quote]

This response is riddled with inaccuracies and misleading information. The claim that "most women without fertility issues will have zero issue conceiving at 35+" is simply false. Fertility declines significantly with age, particularly after 35, and this is well-documented in countless scientific studies. While some women may conceive effortlessly in their late 30s or early 40s, they are the exception—not the rule. Fertility is not "totally independent of age," and pretending otherwise spreads dangerous misinformation.

By the time a woman reaches her late 30s, her chances of conceiving naturally drop dramatically. For example:
- A healthy 30-year-old has about a 20% chance of conceiving per cycle, while a 40-year-old’s chances drop to about 5%.
- Egg quality and quantity decline with age, increasing the risk of miscarriage and chromosomal abnormalities. These are not issues that "always existed" regardless of age—they are directly linked to the biological aging process.

As for the idea that birth control masks preexisting fertility issues: this is another misleading statement. Birth control does not cause infertility or delay the onset of age-related fertility decline. Instead, it preserves the reproductive system by preventing ovulation. The "masking" argument only shifts blame onto women, rather than acknowledging the natural decline in fertility as they age.

Finally, while sperm quality does contribute to fertility, it does not negate the very real impact of maternal age. This attempt to downplay age-related infertility is not only wrong but harmful, as it may discourage women from seeking accurate information or timely medical advice.

Stop spreading falsehoods that dismiss the scientific realities of fertility decline. These narratives are not only inaccurate but dangerous, potentially causing women to make decisions based on misinformation. Fertility is complex, and age is a significant factor that cannot be ignored or explained away by anecdotal experiences. Let’s stick to the facts and stop perpetuating myths that hurt those trying to make informed choices.[/quote]

Here's some data you conveniently didn't use: "At age 30, a woman has a 20% chance of conception each month. Up to 85% of women at this age will be pregnant within the first year of attempting conception.
At age 35, there is a 15% chance per month of conception."

That's a very small drop, almost imperceptible drop, and yes, the vast majority of women trying to get pregnant at that age will have no issues doing so, again, UNLESS THEY HAVE PREEXISTING FERTILITY ISSUES.

86% of women between 30-34 will be pregnant within a year of trying, and 82% of those between 35-39. Within two years, those odds go up to 94% chance of getting pregnant for a woman between 30-34, and 90% of women from 35-39.

Meaning the vast majority of women will have zero issue getting pregnant if they start trying after 35, say it with me again, UNLESS THEY HAVE PREEXISTING FERTILITY ISSUES.

Let's stick to the fact and stop pushing fear mongering and inane, outdated ideas of women's health.[/quote]

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