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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There was the Ortega / Krim case with the nanny murdering the children. She used being mentally ill as a defense but was unsuccessful and sentenced to life in prison. This story has gotten a lot of press but a quick google search led to me finding lots of other stories just from the past year of mothers murdering their children - variety of circumstances but with quite a few being mental health related. I was surprised that one phrase being searched brought up about 10 recent cases. You would think this one is in the news because it is so rare but it isn't that rare. Most of them had made national news. According to FBI stats there are ~ 500 deaths a year in the USA of children killed by their parents. 72% of the deaths are children under 6. Of the 500, 57% are killed by fathers and 43% killed by their mothers. [/quote] With Ortega, the prosecution had a really good narrative about why she killed those two kids. That case gutted me. There’s not a convincing motive in this case - yet. I personally believe that even more infants are killed by their parents than reported because the deaths are attributed to SIDS when in reality the parent either intended to kill the baby or engaged in unsafe sleeping habits. A lot of the children murdered by their parents suffered long term abuse prior to the murder and the parent just went too far. If the autopsies here show unhealed injuries consistent with child abuse, Lindsay Clancy is done. [b]But I suspect these kids were not abused[/b]. [/quote] I think that is a big part of why this case has gotten so much national attention vs. other filicide cases. Sadly there are kids killed by their parents way too often. But generally there are warning signs so to speak. Drug addiction, history of domestic violence, custody disputes, parents are unmarried or there is a step parent/boyfriend involved, an affair comes to light, or there were hidden financial problems, etc. Obviously we don’t know all the facts yet, it is entirely possible more will come to light. But by all accounts so far, these children were not in a high risk demographic to be murdered by their mother. It is highly unusual to go from never so much as hitting your child to horrifically strangling your children (a very aggressive/personal way to kill). She didn’t even just drive a car off the cliff in a moment of anger. She killed them one by one, over minutes each. Every case of child abuse/murder breaks my heart. But this one is hard to even conceptualize because there seem to be no aggravating factors to lead up to this. [/quote] I think there were aggravating factors leading up to it but she kept a lot of her rage and thoughts in her head because that’s what a umc woman does. On Reddit, people found a bunch of her old FB posts. There’s one where she describes her middle son as “the most difficult person she ever met.” And the rest of the post was restrained seething. It was polite but it was obvious she was miserable and resented this poor child. I don’t understand why such people have kids. She had a career and her own life. There’s no excuse for having kids only to cruelly snuff them out later.[/quote] Oh I definitely agree there were internal aggravating factors. I’ve also seen some of her online posts and she strikes me as someone uptight/anxious/rigid with feelings of rage when things don’t go according to her plans. I definitely think motherhood was not what she envisioned once her children were no longer babies, but that she tried hard to cling on to the image she wanted to project of herself as a mother. But by “aggravating factors” I had more so meant external ones. I would wager a guess this case is a statistical anomaly in that there were no apparent stressors to add to whatever internally caused her to do this. As far as we know, she has never been abused nor abused her children. She is not housing or food insecure. The children were planned within a two parent marriage (e.g. no non-family adults in the house, custody battles, etc.). She does not appear to be a part of any religious extremist organization/cult. She does not appear to have addiction issues (although who knows what will come out about her prescriptions). We don’t know of any affairs. She is educated and able to hold down a professional job where she maintained good relationships with colleagues. It’s still early and more could come out, but on paper, she absolutely does not check any boxes one would expect from someone who murders their own child. In fact, I wonder how common it is for children murdered by a parent to have never been harmed on a prior occasion. This was like zero to 100 with very few warning signs. [/quote] I agree based on what I’ve read too. She reads like a lot of people on this very site. [/quote]
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