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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for the support.  I appreciate it.

Re: the other woman . . . I do feel in my gut that it isn't over with them, and that it probably never was.  How in the hell can I keep my sanity and my dignity when/if he tries to introduce my children to her?

When do you try to teach your children about how hurtful and wrong all of this is?  OBVIOUSLY not now . . . but I don't want them growing up thinking their father's actions are ok, that marriage isn't a commitment, etc.

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OK, OP, I haven't read the whole thread, but I separated from my child's dad when he was a toddler, and recently gave him more details after he asked now that he's a teen. Everyone's situation is different, but I will say that this isn't a conversation you should have with your kids until they are MUCH older. Also, a decade later, my lens softened a lot and I was able to talk about it in a way that wasn't dripping with emotion, and after I'd learned a lot about myself and grown in a lot of ways...as has my ex. My child was surprised, and angry at both of us. Which is his right. It was a hard conversation. But we also spoke about how people are multifaceted and imperfect, how we wish we could have done some things differently, and how our love for him has never wavered. Good luck, keep breathing, and keep loving your babies. [/quote]

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