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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We all can't have everything in life.  You've had a cushy situation for 20+ years and you never invested in yourself. Unfortunately you've traveled this far down this road, that you are right, you've wasted any sort of intellectual capacity. It's very sad that you are thinking back to grade school and high school academics as your glory days.  I think it's time to accept that 20 years are gone and start making some good choices and investing in yourself.  That means your partner will have to also shift his thinking.[/quote]

Exactly.[/quote]

OP here.  This thread is one of the most mean spirited I have ever read on DCUM.  Here I am recovering from my hysterectomy (which means I will never be able to have more children) which I am absolutely heartbroken about, and then I read the positively nasty comments on here when I am already at my lowest point between the hysterectomy and feeling like I'm in the middle of a midlife crisis trying to figure out a roadmap for my 40s.  [b]Newsflash: SAH and taking care of a child and a home/husband is not a waste at all.  Over the past few years I have spent every minute with my child, seen every milestone, and made my home a nicer place for my family by taking care of all the housework and cooking myself.[/b]  Congratulations, you have all made a heartbroken, depressed women feel even more depressed.  I have never felt more depressed in my life than I have recently, and all you mean and nasty women have just made it a million times worse.  [/quote]

NP. I'm sorry to hear about your hysterectomy OP. I can imagine feeling heartbroken and depressed about that as well. What I wonder is, why were you planning on a long future being a SAHM to two kids but not to one? Is it that you don't want to be a SAHM to school aged kids? If that is true, then had you gotten pregnant this year, at most you'd only postpone this problem 5 years and then you would be back here anyway when #2 started kindergarten.

I'm just curious about why this sudden urge to go back to a full time job. Fwiw, this is coming from a fellow SAHM of 3 school aged children. Between caring for them (overseeing homework, helping them study, driving to activities, hosting play dates, cooking dinner, cleaning) and volunteering in their schools as well as somewhere else, I have a pretty full plate. My husband travels 1 to 2 days a week as well, which I already find stressful at times and makes me feel like if I had to cope with a paying job on top of everything else, I'd be pushed over the edge.[/quote]

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