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[quote=Anonymous][quote]think there are two sides of every story. Yes, I agree that those could be controlling behaviors, but depending on how they are enforced, controlling doesn't have to mean abusing. Disagreements about clothing, hair style, opinions have always been a trademark of generation gap and teens voicing their opinions is a trademark of growing up and showing independance. I tell my kids what to wear and they sure disagree with me and sometimes I enforce my decision, sometimes I agree with their choice. PP didn't actually present any real abuse, often parents are right about bad clothing and hair choices. What I find very disturbing is pp's presenting her case of her parents not allowing her to get pregnant as abuse. I mean, how is that possibly wrong of her parents? Should they encourage her to get pregnant as a teen?[/quote]

I took the not getting pregnant part to show that she was a "good girl" rather than an example of abuse from her parents. As in, she followed their orders and they heaped on more. She didn't get pregnant, and they didn't allow her to date anyway. She didn't date, but they still enforced conservative clothing choices. She followed their clothing rules and they insisted on certain hair choices on top of controlling her clothes. She followed all those rules and they insisted she do it without complaining. So she didn't complain, and when she got out from under their thumb, she realized there were other options for her in the great big world. When she stopped doing exactly what they demanded of her adult self, they called her ungreatful and other names, because she stopped being compliant and bowing down to their wishes.

I totally didn't read that as, "boohoo, my parents wouldn't let me be a teen mom. They're so abusive." Funny how we read the same thing and came to such different conclusions. :)[/quote]

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