Reply to My boyfriend has a "Friend"

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "My boyfriend has a "Friend""

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem with OP's case is she's snooping on her boyfriend. This is literally the only problem here.[/quote]

OP Here...Not snooping, phone hadn't locked yet, a text came in, I looked down and saw it and the name of the person so I picked up the phone. If I hadn't I would still be in the dark about all this. Thinking everything was great and this relationship was progressing. I could have just let it go but my gut told me to pick it up and I did.[/quote]

OP, that is snooping. You looked at his phone. It doesn't matter if it was locked or not or whether you were right or not. You picked up his phone and read something that was not intended for you.

I think that the main thing here is that you are insecure and you do not trust your boyfriend. If you want to know if he is interested in her romantically, ask him, "Sam, are you interested in Beth romantically? If she asked you to have sex with her, would you do it?" Right now, it sounds like your boyfriend is into you and doesn't understand why you are so threatened by this woman. Either tell him what your actual concern is and address it, or cut him loose and let him find someone to date who isn't completely insane.[/quote]

Really? He doesn't seem that into her to me.[/quote]

He drives long distances to see her and other than this one issue, OP has not been able to cite any problems with their relationship, which she believed was going well, until she snooped in his phone.[/quote]

So you think she should just ignore this and move on and not be threatened by any of this? I don't know if I agree with this. It is like dirty little secret he is keeping from her. She hasn't seen any actually inappropriate exchanges between them but the volume is disturbing and that is what she sees on text, there is something else she mentioned that they communicate on but she doesn't seem to have access to it and then the phone calls. Why all this attention to another woman. Why isn't he calling her instead of this woman? To many questions. Not that black and white[/quote]

No, I think she should break up with him because she sounds insecure and I don't think there's any way for him to address that. The OP's concerns with this friendship are mostly centered around how much more successful/attractive/etc. this woman is than the OP. Given that the boyfriend is forthcoming about the relationship when asked, I don't think there's any dirty little secret. She's known him for 6 months and is essentially demanding that he give up a friendship with someone who he has already stated is not a romantic prospect for him and focus only on her.

If you and the OP are the kind of women who cannot stand the idea of your husbands and boyfriends being friends with women, then don't have relationships with men who have female friends. It's actually pretty black and white. [/quote]

Do you honestly believe that if he had feelings for this "Friend" he would fess up about it to the girlfriend? No guy does that. He is infatuated with this woman and if she changes her mind and wants a relationship OP is dumped. She is the girl he thinks is the best he can do. The "Friend" is what he wants but knows he can't have it. I you want a 100k car, but all you can afford is the 25k car. You buy the 25k car and continue to lust over the 100k car for a lifetime and should you ever have a chance at having the 100k car you will jump on it. 
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics