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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's upsetting for women who have worked so hard academically and sacrificed for their careers to learn that most men would be just as happy if you had been a yoga instructor or an ES teacher.

But it's true.

Most men want smart (not genius smart, just up on current events smart) pretty, sweet, affectionate, care-takers for wives. The details are not important.

A man who would want a big-law partner for a wife is very rare.

The PP who said that UMC men end up with these women b/c the women pursue these men was spot on.

FWIW, I am UMC, went to an Ivy and married an Ivy grad (both undergrad and law school) and I can tell you he would not give two hoots if I became a dog-walker tomorrow. He simply wants me to be happy, b/c when I'm happy his life is wonderful. That's out men.

And no it's not sad. It's sweet and supportive. Most women would freak out if their high-earning husbands stepped off that track.[/quote]

I don't think this is true of most men. I think many professional men want to be with a professional woman even though they might have a more mommy-track professional job that's not quite as demanding as theirs. [b]It's a lot of pressure to be the sole breadwinner even if you're making a ton.[/b] Plus I think many ambitious men are attracted to ambitious women and would be much less attracted to someone who is very smart and highly educated  that's content with being a dog walker. [/quote]

BigLaw partner here again, and I don't agree with this.  At some level of income, there is no pressure being a sole breadwinner.  On the other hand, its far more pressure to do something domestic while trying to succeed at what can be a pressure packed career (at times).  In sum, having a SAHM wife takes the pressure off.  And I agree with the poster upthread that I don't care what DW does - be a dog walker for all I care - just be happy.  But that is a whole other discussion.[/quote]

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