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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We all have to spend a little time in the morning to be presentable for work (agree with PP who said to do otherwise is to sabotage yourself). The difference is the mindset and the amount of time and money spent. Smart northerners do the bare minimum. Southerners of the type we're talking about spend 1-2 hours per day on hair/makeup. That is insane unless you consider your body your only/most important asset. [/quote]

THIS.[/quote]

I couldn't agree more.  [b]For many of these women, their looks/bodies are their ONLY assets.  Yuck.[/b]

And I hate that fake preppy / Lilly Pulitzer / Vineyard Vines look. It's so infantile, useless, and unattractive.  [/quote]

The unfortunate truth is that women are often judged entirely on their looks and acting "nice."   Southern women understand this.  you can refuse to admit this but you're not doing yourself any favors.  [/quote]

The truth is if you buy into that, you're going to hit the glass ceiling about 5 years in[/quote]

I hope that doesn't happen to me.  I don't know what you mean by "buy into it."  I've tried my best to look good and will continue to do so.  However I'd be an idiot if I thought there isn't a glass ceiling or that hard work will help me break through it.  [/quote]

If you try to be successful in the workplace by focusing on looking good and acting "nice," it may work for the first few years because people (especially men) will like you, but you will top out quickly because those same people won't take you seriously.  It's more the acting "nice" part than the looking good part, but sometimes they go hand in hand - both are about being pleasant and pleasing to be around.  It's an easy trap for young women to fall into, I think, because you are rewarded for it at first.  I'm not saying you have to be mean or look bad, but long-term, being firm, serious and a little pushy in your interactions with people, and not worrying about how likable you are, is a much better approach if you want to be thought of as leadership material.
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