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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dont; get it, really I don't. How does an expensive ring show anything? My husband bought me a 750$ engagement ring 21 years ago. We have been married for 19 years, we are equal partners, he is my  best bud, and would DIE for me. That means so much more than a 10K ring ever could.

And is there an income cut off? If a man making only 50K a year can only spend 500 on a ring, does that mean he values the woman less than the man who can afford a 10K ring?

Or that the woman who gets the 500 ring is worth less?

I truly don't get it.[/quote]

Those are my values, too. My now-husband and I were both on the same page, that an expensive engagement ring wasn't in the cards. In his family, though, the women do tend to get big rings - so even though he and I both agreed that wasn't our thing, he still felt some anxiety over what his aunts, etc, would think of us.

Luckily, they already think we're a couple of weirdos, so this was just one more data point. And also luckily, he and I agreed on that.

But other people feel differently. For some people, they just enjoy looking at sparkly rocks. Some people see the size of the diamond as being an indication of how much someone loves them, or wants to show them off. They aren't necessarily wrong! It really does seem as if that is what's being indicated, with some of these rings.

With OP - who knows. Maybe this ring thing really is a manifestation of deep value differences that makes her incompatible with her boyfriend. Maybe he's just a doofus and she likes shiny things, but otherwise they're great together. [/quote]

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