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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure my parents did anything not already mentioned...parenting and safety standards were different in the 70s and 80s.  Some of that stuff seems crazy now, but lack of seatbelts and junk food were just the norm back then.

They weren't great parents in many ways, and many of the things they did might cross the line into emotional abusiveness (certainly have landed me and my siblings in a lot of therapy and my sister and I with eating disorders)...but not sure that's what this thread is about.

I guess the one thing I've come to appreciate being a big difference between my parenting and theirs is how personally they took misbehavior/discipline.  Before I had kids, I always marveled at (and secretly judged) parents whose kids severely misbehaved, enough to get punishment etc from their parents, but then turned around and acted all lovey and cuddly with them very soon afterward.  I grew up in a house where if you misbehaved, you kind of got the cold shoulder in addition to your punishment for the rest of the day (esp. from my mother).  It's actually pretty damaging for a young child to feel like a little mess up makes them a pariah to their parents.  Now, though, I also see how weird it is.  DD often pushes every button I have and can be a real handful, but once she's had her time out and calmed down, I actually can't help but give her a hug and kiss and tell her how much I love her (she's also usually at her cuddliest after being disciplined anyway).[/quote]

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