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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The thread about comfort level with DH's female friends got me thinking.  There is a special place in hell for women who cheat with married men with young kids.  I'm not excusing the husbands' behavior; they are unquestionably responsible, but there are two players in every affair.  Maybe a 20 year old girl gets some kind of pass for being clueless about what new parenthood (or marriage or adulthood) is like.  But holy heck, ladies, how about a little solidarity with our fellow moms?  You may have your own baggage to deal with, but if you're even close to a boundary with a married recent father, couldn't you just pause for a minute to remember yourself as a new mom, have some empathy for his wife, and not make her already challenging few years complete misery?[/quote]

There are 3 players. The wife usually has some play in the affair as well and there are usually issues in the marriage. The husband shouldn't cheat, but rarely is the marriage without issues and RARELY is the wife an innocent party in the marital issues. [/quote]

Statistically, cheating is a crime of opportunity and has nothing to do with the state of the marriage.

Please do the research before posting outdated stereotypes. And sure, all marriages - even happy ones - have issues. However, that is not what causes cheating. If it did, both partners would be cheaters. [/quote]
You're wrong, there's another thread where someone posted a Newseek article on a study that rebukes that [/quote]

Each and everyone of you should watch this.

https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en
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"Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships."[/b]

[b]"In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence."[/b][/quote]

You agin, your comprehension issues are tiring. That is not what she is saying.[/quote]

Me [b]agin[/b]? I did not state what the speaker was saying, only to watch... and I pasted in the Ted Talk quotes. Tell me what I said she is saying, please. I found the video interesting, that is why I posted. Where do I post my opinion on it or make a statement?[/quote]

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