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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

My Bf and I did the math last night and after he pays the bills, rent and his loans, transportation costs and groceries including budgeting for $60 for lunches each week, he has about $600 of his paycheck that should be left over for him to save. So far, he does not manage to save it so we talked about buckling down and making sure we save at least $500 of it. Since he covers all the essential costs my paycheck of 3300ish per month should go to being saved.

I think together we'll be okay. We aren't managing our money well. I also need him to earn more before we have children since, if I stay home, we won't have any of my income for extra expenses.  [/quote]

you are as clueless as he is. You are not staying home OP.  Not unless you want to completely destroy the only safety net your kids will have.  Is he factoring in supporting his family till they die. Oh to be young and dumb again.  Your resentment is going to build up slowly over time.  And do NOT LIVE with him. I can't believe how many women fall for that trap.  You don't need to live with someone to know their core values. In fact, couples who live together have a higher divorce rate because once they move int they tend to just drift into marriage as the "next step" and then moving out seems to hard even though they know the relationship needs to end.  Holy cow, again I am soooooo happy I did not marry any of these clowns in my 20s.  I am happily married now to a guy for five years and we have a kid and have never ever had one disagreement or stress about money. We are on the same page, he is responsbile and I could stay home if I wanted to but I dont want that.  Husband has enough pride to want to provide for his family.  Please don't sugar this, I don't care how in love you think you are.  [/quote]

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