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[quote=Anonymous]Sending hugs op. No one seems to remember how it feels the first time ever when you become a mother. It's kind of crazy, in a beautiful, exhausting, anxiety-provoking way. Everything is new and there is a learning curve for every little thing. You're trying to find your way. You want to cry sometimes because you can't believe this tiny human is actually here, alive, and yours. You're crying because you feel like you have no idea what you are doing and you haven't slept for more than a 3 hour stretch in weeks. The last thing you need is family making you feel guilty for what you're doing or not doing. Or trying to navigate the tricky inlaws dynamics while sleep deprived and hormonal.  The last thing you need is for people to make your life MORE stressful. And this isn't even your inlaws first grandchild. But for you, it's your very first.

It will get better.

Yes, your mil has boundary issues and she's being tactlessly possessive of your child. But she also probably will love that child well once you are clearheaded enough to be able to set appropriate boundaries with her. But this is a learning curve too and it will take time. You and your DH will need to get in the same page with the boundaries.

There were so many times I wanted to scream at my mil in the first 2 months. I didn't trust myself to handle her tactless, hurtful comments in a mature way in the beginning so I limited contact with them in the early weeks.[/quote]

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