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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids use it. It's respectful. They also call adults "Miss/Mr" and [b]would never just use their first name[/b].

Nothing I hate worse than hearing an adult call for a kid or ask a kid a question and the kid responding "YEAH?"[/quote]

Even when the adults specifically ask your kids to use just the adults' first name?[/quote]

Even then. [b]I'm instilling a pattern of behavior and a set of manners that I want them to have[/b]. Other people don't get to interfere with that. It confuses the kid to have some adult tell them to disobey their parent by doing something they are taught to do. Then the child is torn between obeying parents or pleasing some adult.[/quote]

You purposely want your children to call an adult by a name that the adult does not want to be called? That's not what I consider politeness.[/quote]

NP here. I grew up using ma'am/sir, but I'm not enforcing it with my child.  But I do ask that he use Ms/Mr automatically until/unless the person expresses a preference.  If they express a preference, he should honor that request.  He's in preschool, so most adults are still "Ms FirstName" but I assumed that would morph into Ms LastName at elementary school when the switch comes with teachers.

After growing up in a fairly formal home, it is weird to me to have a 5yo address me by my first name, but it's also weird to be addressed as Mrs HisLastName, because I didn't change my name.  Since I have no strong preference, I just dodge the whole thing.

Unless the tone of sir/maam is obnoxious, sarcastic, or obviously rude, I have no problem with it at all.  It still rolls off my tongue out of habit, especially with strangers who are much older or in service situations.  [/quote]

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