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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get it. Why did the author allow for all those one sided friendships with male friends? Why do DCUMers let their husbands be shitty coparents?[/quote]

Because the truth is one person can't *make* another person do anything.  We *let* them be shitty parents because that's what they are, and even if we did have the time and energy to teach them to be better parents, it wouldn't work.

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Also, the divided energy of having to build awareness in a spouse while parenting the children and working...! Come on. It's too much.

It's like "allowing" for sexism, racism, or whatnot. I didn't "allow for any of this. [b]It's what we're faced with.[/b]

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You tolerate and allow this to continue after you're faced with it. It is a choice. Once you make your choices, you don't get to blame others for them.[/quote]

Well, THAT'S bullshit. The blame lies with the person doing the wrong, not the person who is wronged. That's like saying "hey you let that person do that racist/sexist thing to you, what's wrong with you?"

Wake up!  [/quote]

Um no. It's not about blame at all. But in your terms, staying with a person who piles shit on you day in and day out and doing nothing about it is like saying to that racist/sexist: Thank you, sir, may I have another?[/quote]

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