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Wow. I"m so glad I have such fond memories of my grandparents, who did "babysit" us for weeks at a time. They actually liked to spend time with us. They didn't view it as "babysitting" but as spending time with their grandparents. And, they still traveled on their own to have their free time.

And, there is a medium between one night all "all week", as you are well aware. But, that would entail a discussion as to what your expectations are with your kids. Sounds rather difficult for you if you're that testy about a week with your grandchildren. You're a sad person. [/quote]

You have some really high standards for what grandparents should be expected to do with and for their grandkids.  If your grandparents wanted to do that, that's cool.  My parents get my kids from school two days a week and do fun things with them on weekends once a month or so.  Occasionally the kids will stay overnight at their place for fun.  But they don't want to watch the kids alone for weeks on end, or go on vacation with us - and that's fine. They raised their own kids and are enjoying their more limited role as grandparents.  Obviously different grandparents can make different reasonable choices about what they want their relationship with their families to be, and that is fine.[/quote]

Please read my post again.  Those are not my expectations but my experiences.

I actually don't think it's "fine." This is family.  And, I don't get grandparents who don't feel the need to be with their grandchildren twice a year and view any extended care of more than a couple of days a nuisance (your situation sounds wonderful and I would not feel as strongly about a vacation if that were the situation; that is not OP's situation).  Likewise for those that view their "job" of parenting over. I find it sad and a little pathetic.  But, nevertheless, if that is how the grandparents feel, then OP should have a conversation with the GP's to discuss expectations of their involvement on a vacation so that everyone is on the same page as to what is expected of the GP's involvement (and if that's none, that's up to them).

OP, if even after that discussion they are unwilling to vacation with you, then there is not much you can do.

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