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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]That's totally fine, but it reflects that you have different needs and interests in terms of vacationing than they do. You are just at a different place than them, and it isn't going to work out unless someone is doing something that they don't really want to do. I have two kids that are older than yours (8 and 11), and honestly, a vacation that requires dealing with nap schedules and younger kids who need to be entertained and have kid friendly food doesn't sound that appealing to me, even though I have my own kids and relatively inexpensive tastes.

My kids are older than your kids are. I would do a long weekend with little ones as long as we had separate accommodations. I wouldn't need 5 star.

Okaaaaayyyyy. Now we know what Random PP would do and wouldn't need. How this helps OP, I'm not sure...

I was responding to the other random pp with kids who are 8 and 11. I think most people can handle a long weekend (as opposed to a full week) in less than 5 star conditions.

Something for Op to consider anyway. [/quote]

I'm the poster you are responding to.  I don't need "5 star conditions" and can "handle" a long weekend, or even a week, as I am a functional adult.  However, it isn't something that sounds like a fun vacation to me and I don't pick vacations based on what I can "handle."  If a relative expressed that it were really important to them that my family go, of course I would do so.  If they just asked if I felt like doing it, I would probably say we had other vacation plans.  [/quote]

It sounds a hell of a lot more appealing to me then having guests come and plop their arses down in your house for a week...and not want to do anything.  Op and her family have not been included on the 5 star vacays (instead they get these week long boring trapped in the house visits)...so maybe a nicer compromise for Op would be to meet the in-laws at a nice resort area close to her own house and let the in-laws pick a hotel that they would like to stay in.  If they want 5 stars they can have 5 stars.

FWIW, we've had older relatives stay at our house and they LIKE to get out and do things.  They don't won't to be stuck staring at the walls either. [/quote]

But how does OP know her parents will want to "do anything" on the beach vacation she describes?  It doesn't sound like they will.  And to the extent she can motivate them to do something in that context why not at her house?  If she is in DC there is a TON to do - what is stopping her from going out and doing it?  If the grandparents stay home anyway - well they are likely to do that on a beach vacation so what difference does it make where they are?  OP's fam will go to the beach vacation either way and see the grandparents while they are sitting home staring at a wall either way.  Methinks OP is not being entirely forthcoming about the issue here - or at least the heart of the issue doesn't make much sense.[/quote]

At least Op wouldn't be the maid/cook/captive audience for a whole week.  Maybe I'm confused, but I think that the in-laws are the ones visiting Op in DC.  So it's Op's home.  She's the host and  she can't just up and leave when she wants to.  She has to stick around and entertain them or cajole them into going out (which they don't want to do).  They just plant and complain about her housekeeping while Op cooks and cares for the kids. They apparently aren't much into doing things with the grandkids.  Op's house is where they go to get waited on.

At least at the beach they could stay in their hotel room all day long if they want to and just meet at restaurants for meals or order room service if they feel like eating in bed.
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Agreed except OP wants to get a house at the beach.  So someone needs to do all that same stuff in the vacation house.  And her parents clearly don't want to so its going to fall on her anyway.  So what is the difference?  Or does she think her parents are going to shoulder some of that?  In which case, that is obviously why they wouldn't consider it a vacation ...

I guess I am also confused because the part OP is annoyed about is that her parents won't go out and do stuff at her home in DC.  So why would they at the Jersey shore?[/quote]

Yes.  Op thinks that they will suddenly become fun at the beach but in reality they just want 5 star adult pampering sans kids.  That is why she needs to forget the beach and look into locales closer to her home that have different levels of accommodations and let the in-laws figure out where they are going to stay.  Op and her family can stay someplace affordable and kid friendly.

They can meet up for activities.[/quote]

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