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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will bite even though I am sure this thread will become a drama thread shortly.

I'm currently a SAHM of 4yo and 6yo boys. I worked until a few months ago. I used to say that I was not SAHM material. I am a lousy cook and I hate housework. I loved my children but I did not especially like changing diapers, washing bottles and cleaning up goldfish off the floor every minute of the day. I am also ivy league educated and had a successful career. I was good at my job and made a nice six figure income.

I still don't think I am necessarily SAHM material because I still hate housework and can't cook. We still outsource that. I do love spending time with my boys. If I have both boys together for long periods of time, they often start fighting and it gets unpleasant fast. I try to schedule my time so that I have quality time with both kids. My marriage has also improved significantly since I started staying home. I have lunch dates with DH, don't get mad at him for being unable to attend the school Thanksgiving lunch or never taking a snow day. I feel really close to my children. When I was working, I was always stressed out. I always had work on my mind because there was something I left to do so that I could rush home for dinner or soccer or whatever X school event.[/quote]

This is exactly my situation, down to the Ivy league and successful career.  I can truthfully say that even though I enjoyed and was good at my job, I've never been happier than over the past few years at home with my kids.  We also outsource things like housecleaning, etc., but I am 100% here for my children which makes our entire family run more smoothly and calmly.  When I was working, I felt that I was never able to give my all to either work or my kids.  I wanted to commit to something fully, and I found that for me, committing to my kids' care was the right thing to do.  I plan on returning to work at some point, but not while my children are young.

Question:  why is it somehow understandable or acceptable for a woman to say, "Oh, I'm not SAHM material," but if another woman says she's not "WOHM material," some of you treat her like she's an idiot?  Aren't personal preferences respected any more?  I don't care if you work and have kids; why would you think I'm somehow unable to do the same if the fact is, I [i]prefer [/i]being able to focus on one of those things?  Why do you care?[/quote]

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