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Op here.

OMG I think you hit the nail on the head! I'm not blatantly socially awkward and I dress pretty well and am pretty attractive. Guys are always nicer to me because they don't care/ don't pick up on the social capital that is need in order to fit in with most women. From what I've observed being nice and friendly is NOt all that's required to befriend a woman.[b] I unfortunately seem to lack whatever "value" it is that women want their female friends to have. It can be anything ranging from being married to the right guy, having connections to go to the right parties, knowing the right people etc. in high school these are the cool people but In the grown up world I think we have our own version of it[/b].[/quote]
This is why you have no female friends.

There are definitely some women who are social climbers and who will only befriend those that have the "right" husbands, the clothes, who they know, blah blah blah, but not all women are like this, and you just lumped most women into this group.

And btw, if you think you are attractive and dress well, the men are friendly with you because of how you look, and probably not because they don't care about social capital.

I find it hard to socialize with some women, as well, but it's mostly because I feel judged, by people like you, because I don't dress well, nor am I that attractive.  I am also pretty reserved when it comes to new people. I am afraid of making a social faux pas.  There are very few women I connect with but that's because I am mostly a geek (I love scifi and the like). Still, I can find some women to talk to about work and my kids and what not without feeling judged.

There are plenty of women out there that won't judge you based on how you look or your social status, so perhaps you are meeting the wrong kinds of people.  Maybe you are in that type of social circle where being  married to the right man, or your social status is important.  Maybe find some new people to hang out with.
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