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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a story for you OP.

My ex lives with a woman he's been with for years.  They are all but married except legally.  Woman purchased an expensive house.  Woman made my ex call me.

"Because the new house has a bedroom just for our kids (that would be, the guest room), I am reducing your child support by $300 a month."  The two of them decided that this money would be earmarked to defray the cost of her mortgage in exchange for the bedroom my kids sleep in four nights a month.

Now, my ex is a real jerk, but I could tell by his voice that he was extremely uncomfortable with this phone call.  [b]He was doing this because the new woman made him.  [/b]He was doing this because he was putting her first, over our kids.

Of course CS doesn't work that way. You don't get to just cut it because your GF bought a house.  So I politely declined to have my CS reduced and that was the end of it.

My point, obviously GF is acting in her own self-interest.  It is not in the best interests of my kids to have their CS cut by $300 a month.  This would seriously impact their quality of life.

GF is a decent person, I don't particularly dislike her.  [b]But I was really shocked that my children's stepmom would suggest something so selfish and absurd.[/b]  If she needs $300 a month that badly she shouldn't have purchased the house.

In my anecdotal experience, not all step parents can be relied on to consistently act in the best interests of the step children.  They do not all have the same degree of innate self-sacrifice that a nuclear-family or original parent hopefully has.  People are selfish.  [/quote]

But really, this is 100% on your X-DH. He didn't have to pick up the phone. He should have told her no, I'm not going to do that.

Honestly, this isn't the Stepmom's fault, it's the X-DHs for calling, even if his voice sounded guilty while doing it.[/quote]

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