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I feel like I'm in the same situation, with a DW who feels entitled to some sort of pampered dream-life, just because of the degree (translation in her mind: future paycheck) she married.

In our situation, HHI is $250K -- DW $90K DH ~$160K.  DH graduated from an excellent school, working for the government.  DW not driven career-wise - could certainly do more if she wanted to.  Hasn't really done so because of desire to be around for the kids.  Educational debt was completely paid off within first year of marriage, well over a decade ago and DW never really had to take any meaningful responsibility for that.

DW would say exactly the same things as OP, I'm sure.  I've often been told how much I disappoint her, how I haven't risen to my potential.  But I'm happy with what I'm doing; it's meaningful work.  Yes, it's busy sometimes -- but I'm able to spend AMPLE time with her and with the kids.  Sometimes the known, even at lower income, is better than the risk of the unknown, particularly when time off, work-life balance, and general job satisfaction are part of the equation.

I wish OP and my DW the best in their quest for inclusion in the 0.1% via marriage.  
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This sounds different than the OP because the OP moved with the husband to the grad school and helped to pay for it. It is different when the grad degree is finished before the marriage and the spouse doesn't pay for it.

The mother of a neighbor of mine worked to put her husband through med school and then he divorced her shortly after he graduated. Managed to hide income and not pay child support for years, also. So things could always be worse. 
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