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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I imagine that her unwillingness to help out with her grandchild feels like a rejection, so I'm sure it stings. Just make sure you're on the same page with your husband. He needs to take the lead on managing her expectations for the future. You will only sound bitter if it comes from you.[/quote]

He's definitely going to be the one to handle this. I responded once to her hints about living with us because she kept making them to me when we were one on one. She clearly knows she has crapped the bed with me and was trying to figure out if I might one day object to them living with us. Beyond that, their retirement is none of my concern and I won't be discussing it further with her.

To answer other PPs' questions, DH has three brothers but none have a pot to piss in. They live beyond their means just like my in laws do and actually look to my in laws for help.[/quote]

That's too bad. It sounds like you and your husband definitely need to set expectations, not only for his parents, but also for the brothers when they pass. My sister is facing a similar situation with her husband's family. In their case, they've agreed on a certain amount of money he can give his family every year and he can distribute it however he likes. They've made it crystal clear that nobody is coming to live with them. I'm not sure how that will play out if either of his parents become truly ill and indigent, but that is the plan at this point. Good luck.[/quote]

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