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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Indian woman here who has not experienced this in real life BUT I also have had a really hard time making friends with the white parents of my DD's friends.  I don't know if perhaps an unarticulated anti-Indian sentiment is the reason or if there's just something wrong with me (never had trouble making friends before though).[/quote]

They may be assuming things about you. I'm Indian and I know lots of Indians ONLY hang out with other Indians socially, on weekends etc -- esp first gen Indians. If you're trying to talk with your DD's friends' parents -- they may be assuming you're being nice but you wouldn't be interested in ever getting together because you have a dawat every weekend or you have your inlaws living with you or you only socialize with family or whatever.[/quote]

Yes! My DS had a lot of Indian students in his class and I could not gain ground with the parents- perfectly cordial but tended to socialize with the other Indian parents. I completely understood, but was bummed. It's not always like this- I connected far better with the Indian parents in my neighborhood. I have honestly found all of the women to be smart, straightforward, and easy to be around. People are people- one of my son's friends is originally from India- she has an older sibling with special needs- I saw the parents at a function once with their older child--both father and mother were lovingly holding his hand, wiping his face, helping him eat. The image stuck with me as an exquisite example of parental tenderness and love. [/quote]

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