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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As this has progressed and the OP's answered more questions, I'm starting to think the OP is pulling our leg.

The last response is what did it for me:  who lets inlaws dictate who they invite to a christening?  Especially when the inlaws don't know any of the people.

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+1. OP's being very selective in which questions she answers...looking fishy.[/quote]

It's a little hard when you can't multiquote because you're anonymous.  What answers are you looking for?

MIL wants to attend a big party and I believe was feeling left out.  She doesn't care about the occasion or if she doesn't know anyone.[/quote]

Given that your ILs are not religious, want you to have a big party that you don't want to have even though they won't know anyone there, and want you to pay for expensive plane tickets, what possible justification does your husband offer for giving in to their demands? Surely he has to see how ridiculous this is. Make sure your inlaws know they're invited to the small get together you're having if they want to use your reward tickets, and leave it at that. [/quote]

So I guess you can't have the baby baptized where the ILs live because then your parents have to travel out there? Would they object to that?

He claims that because it's so important to us, it would be rude to exclude them, and since we know they can't afford it, we're excluding them by default.  He makes a good argument, but I just - I just can't do it.  I'm going to have another talk with him tonight about the award tickets, and then, as a PP mentioned, talk to him about him cutting costs elsewhere to make up whatever of our money he does want to spend.[/quote]

Is this the first grandchild? Would it really ruin them to miss it? Can't they just save up for it, maybe baptize the baby a year later instead (FYI, that's what DH and I are doing because we're moving and therefore, never felt like joining a parish here, and I'm not super-religious myself and personally I don't think my kid will suffer being baptized at age 1 rather than 3 months old but that's just me). Many of us have parents and ILs who are not wealthy but really want to visit and will save up for the plane tickets. My own ILs do it. They just need to plan ahead.

Seriously, you don't need to fly them in on your dime for this. It's unfair. If they miss it, they're excluding themselves. Unless they're on welfare, there's no reason they can't save up for this, especially if they already have their own favorite airline.

FYI, poor, broke, people don't have a favorite airline. Think about it. [/quote]

+100000. They can;t use a credit card and pay it off over time?  Seems like you all have to make all the sacrifices. I would not budge on this one OP![/quote]

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