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In a few years after gay marriage is "normal" they will start to say that the churches are hate places (hate speechifiers -- they'll come up with a catchier metaphor you can be sure).   There will be posters of a gay couple with a cute small child of a different race in front of a church and the child will say, "why do they hate us."

Then they will say, why tax deduction to hate?

That's how they will attack, and you can bet your life on it.

Because it's not just their plan, it's the devil's.[/quote]

Oy vey, you're a whackadoodle!

My gay married friends with kids go to church and are very active in faith based activities. My single gay friends are active in their churches as well. So there's no need to fear gays tearing down churches. Seriously. You might want to try actually speaking with a gay person IRL before passing such crazy judgment.[/quote]

I know gays all too well.   For example, my gay brother in law left his personal dating profile on our family computer:  his turn on "father son scenes."

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Do you wish to be educated on what this actually means? Because just from those three words I can tell you what it almost certainly does not mean. It almost certainly does not mean that your brother in law is a person who intends to actually violate children or act on a literal sexual relationship with his hypothetical son. That wording was very specific, and means something very specific but easy to misunderstand. Your brother in law is likely not the monster you believe him to be. What you read is actually easily explainable with just a few facts about something you're probably unaware of or have serious misconceptions of. If you were to request it I could perhaps explain more fully what you BIL is probably into and why it's not a problem in any way in terms of a child's safety. My explanation would be very blunt, and possibly uncomfortable, and would not be something you can unread, but it would not be explicit in any way and thus could be written in a way that would probably be appropriate for this board.[/quote]

Could you -- you would actually be doing me a big favor as this is a burden I've carried because I am ill at ease with him around our kids, and I've never wanted to wound my wife by telling her.  It would be a kindness --  thank you.
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Sure, I'll take a stab at it. Now, as a caveat I cannot know 100% for sure that your BIL isn't a child predator, so it's possible that he actually could be, but as I said the specific language he used was a pretty big clue that makes me strongly suspect I'm right about what I'm about to say.

What follows is a discussion of adult, consenting, legal, but non-traditional sexual preferences. There's nothing wrong with any of it from a legal standpoint or from my own moral standpoint of not harming anyone, ever, but it may well be against some people's deeply held religious convictions as to how sexual intimacy is supposed to occur. I personally think that's odd, but other people's boundaries should be respected even if they're not mine. This is a frank but not explicit discussion of a sexual topic. Whoever wants to read that, please highlight the rest of my post. Anyone who doesn't wish to read such things, I've done my best to hide it so it's difficult but not impossible for you to unexpectedly read and be stuck with knowledge in your head you didn't want. Apologies to Jeff if this is somehow inappropriate for this board; it certainly doesn't cross into boundaries of what I would consider NSFW and it's theoretical/factual in tone rather than explicit so I hope it's ok.

[color=white] His use of the word "scene" suggests very strongly to me that he is into a specific type of kinky but consensual and adult sex called ageplay. This is not something I have personal experience with, but I have enough knowledge of it to explain the basics. Two points to emphasize first before anything else: 
One, this IS NOT pedophilia and DOES NOT mean that people who are into this are ever sexually attracted to actual children. It isn't considered pedophilia or even an indicator of pedophilia by psychologists at all. In fact that leads directly to a closely related point.
Two, this IS consensual sex among ADULTS who have both (or all if he is into threesomes or more) specifically decided to discuss what they are into and agree to get involved in it together. The kinky community  --those who are into other than mainstream sexual things, of which ageplay is but one of many variants -- is typically very into communication and in general will be very careful to have complete, competent consent before any sexual encounter occurs.

Now, what actually is this new concept called ageplay? I'm going to borrow from wikipedia here because their explanation is reasonable for a place to start if someone is completely unfamiliar with the term. "Ageplay is a form of roleplaying in which an individual acts or treats another as if they were a different age, sexual or non-sexually." In the context of a dating site profile, it's likely that your BIL is interested in a sexual form of ageplay. Therefore, from the same article, "Individuals who ageplay are not attracted to children, but instead enjoy portraying children, or enjoy childlike elements typical of children present in adults." Note that as I already mentioned this does not (usually -- I'm not going to claim it's impossible to happen ever, but in general it doesn't) mean that someone who is into ageplay as their kink would be into actual kids who are biologically underage.

Shorter version of the above paragraph: It's a roleplay. If you've ever heard of or participated in a murder mystery dinner party -- similar concept. A fascinating idea to play with in a consenting and fictional context but not something that actually makes the participants sexual predators or murderers or whatever.

How do I suspect this just on the basis of the very vague thing you posted? People who are into the kind of thing I just explained, or any kind of kink at all, typically call their sexual encounters "scenes". It's a bit of a buzzword that can typically identify kinky people to the kink-aware. This is because that kind of sex is, like I said, a roleplay where the partners take on roles that are not their actual identities, so this occurs within carefully defined boundaries "in scene" (while doing the roleplay, including any sex desired when in character) before resuming everyone's "out of scene" (real life) roles and dynamics. I can't be 100% sure of your BIL specifically, meaning it's possible he really is a pedophile, but "father/son scenes" is actually a pretty common phrase and specific preferred dynamic to play with for those who are into ageplay, so his use of it is a reasonable indicator that it's a kink thing not a predator thing.

Ageplay as a sexual kink can be, but does not have to be, a form of BDSM (which is NOT what that awful movie 50 Shades of Gray would suggest -- if you've got questions on that too, ask and I can either give a basic answer or point you to some resources). What it definitely is, though, is under the basic broad umbrella of the kinky community, which means people who are into it will as a rule be very concerned about consent and communication. I'm not going to claim no kinky people have ever been child predators, or that everyone in the community is a good and trustworthy person, because claims with "everyone" in them are automatically suspect and there exist bad people in every subgroup of society, but in general within the kinky community there's a very strong culture of not involving underage partners, of getting extremely clear consent, and of very carefully discussing expectations and boundaries before any sort of scene would begin.

Sources: 
- personal knowledge as kink-aware through friends
-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ageplay
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Hope that helped. Feel free to post back with followup or related questions if you have any, and I'll see what I can do to get you some answers.[/quote]

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