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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship. [/quote]

Because it's easier to hate the OW/OM rather than recognizing that the person who was supposed to love you, cherish you, see you through hard times is a POS who can't keep it in his pants or keep her legs closed.

That said, I don't give affair partners a free pass, yet to me the biggest responsibility is always on the married person.[/quote]

For me, the above is definitely true.  I have a child with my cheating ex, therefore I have to have a relationship with my ex, and for our child's sake it needs to be a civil partnership-if I went full-hate, I wouldn't be able to do what I need to do for my child. So some of my anger for my ex does get focused on the OW.

That said, the OW in my case is a serial cheater, who only leaves relationships by cheating (she's in her late 40s). She thinks she's perfectly fine and it's always her ex's fault that she cheated.  Doesn't feel any guilt about the havoc she's caused, because the new relationship is always the "the one." So I hate her for her part in causing havoc in my life and my child's life, I hate her for being a person who hurts other people and doesn't care, and I hate her for being crazy and thinking she's sane.  And, yes, I realize that my ex is a complete ass for not seeing how this will all play out in another 5 or 10 years.[/quote]

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