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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm a PP from page 2 who dealt with family denial that ended in suicide much like your friend's dd. You are on the right track with how you support the family, and god bless you for it. It sounds like your friend could use some distance to see the situation clearly.  if she knows this person also, maybe just mentioning how you have been thinking about them lately and wondering if her son is on that path will be a good conversation starter. If she kneejerks "NO that is NOT my son how could you say that!!!" vs if she says "yeah I've been worried about that too, nothing we do seems to be working"--then you will know how much denial she really is in.

Ignore the haters here. they have never dealt with mental illness or suicide and it's obvious.[/quote]
have you read anything OP said...and by the way OP's friend has a son.Geez[/quote]

I read when she said this:

[quote]We both know someone who a few years ago was in a similiar situation but with a daughter. The mom just refused to see and acknowledge how bad it was, maybe living with it every day she just got used to that as being her new norm.
 
People were very hushed about it because they saw the wall she put up. Sadly the D committed suicide about a year later, no one thought it was "that bad" and needless to say it has devastated that entire family. I keep thinking about them, maybe someone close to them SHOULD have spoken up and said something, urged them to do more, etc........[/quote]

Have YOU read what she's written? About the way she supports the family, the healthy son, and sees him as the mom does not? Have YOU dealt with the mental illness and suicide of a loved one? Have YOU had to look at yourself in the mirror afterwards and remember all the times you could have said something, but didn't?

I'm betting no by your judgmental stone-throwing. People who have been there generally have more empathy. You have contributed nothing, no experience, no insight, just negativity, and poorly-informed negativity at that.  So sit down, shut the fuck up, and let people who have been there help each other.  [/quote] You are crazy as a loon. those comments that you are highlighting still doesn't make OPS friend have a daughter instead of a son.  And exactly what is it that you want OP to say? I AM REALLY SORRY ABOUT THE LAHORE THAT YOU LOST, BUT IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS PARTICULAR SITUATION IN WHICH A FAMILY IS DOING EVERYTHING THEY POSSIBLY COULD DO WITH THE HELP OF MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS WHICH OP IS NOT SO UNLESS YOU JUST WANT HER TO SAY SOMETHING JUST FOR THE HELL OF SAYING IT THEN YOU AND OP NEED TO TAKE A SEAT SEVERAL  SEATs
YOU SOUND CRAZY[/quote]

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