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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm very sorry. As other posters have said, there is a lot more to your anger than your stepdaughter's behavior. Based on what you described here, your anger probably comes from not being respected and valued in your family.  Your DH is getting his way.  Your stepdaughter is getting her way.  You are getting...what? The satisfaction of not rocking the boat? You say you are accommodating them for the sake of harmony, but what harmony is there in you seething with rage inside? Aren't you a person? Don't you deserve happiness?

Listen to me.  The desire for motherhood in women is very strong and primordial. It often gets ahead of everything - men, money, reason...To give that up, you need to either not want it to begin with, or to have excellent compensations.  By way of compensations I mean that a husband who doesn't want children better treat you like a goddess in every sense, be loaded, and keep your feet from touching the ground.

I don't think your husband is treating you that way. Real men don't let women shovel walkways, clean cars etc. as long as they are able-bodied without extenuating circumstances. Your husband, being Nordic, is way better suited for it than you are.

I fear that several years from now, when your reproductive capacity runs out, you will take stock of your life and you will see an uncaring husband, a selfish stepdaughter and your now-barren body...for what? What did you get in exchange for giving up your dream?  Do you understand what resentment of that sort will do to you? Glugging vodka doesn't begin to describe it.

Leave. I would.

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