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[quote=Anonymous]OP, while I agree that you need therapy, I also feel for you and understand how hard it is to witness a mom not taking care of her kids in a proper way.
I have a SIL like that. She works long hours, travels, brings in a sh..tload of money, yes, but also keeps it separate. My brother is kind of forced to stay in his mommy track job, to take care of the kids and household. She also says she would support his taking on a better paying job, but would she step up with parental duties? No frickin' way!!!
I know my brother has a lot of resentment, he shared some with me. I totally understand his point and I also resent SIL for this, but here's what I keep telling him: divorce is not an option, and the best thing you can do is put kids first. If she is not there for them, let her take care of her career and you take care of the kids. They need you, they need someone to remember their medications, their school performances, all these small things. 
SIL grew up in a family where her mom would pawn her off on any relative who was willing to do it, and still she thinks her mom is like the best mom in the world...I just hope that my nephews will not be like that, and will understand what their father was doing for them.
So, I say, for the sake of your kids: try to manage the resentment, put kids first, and be a good dad to them. It's really ok if you cook dinner and don't have the time to play with them at that very moment. Once they are around 3-4, you can TALK to them while doing things, and they can be your little helpers. 
I say this also as a woman whose spouse is not great with kids. what can I do? If left to their own devices, they would spend a day in front of TV with maybe one more or less decent meal. But I got what I got, it was my fault marrying him, now I have to lay in this bed.  I try to make sure the child gets fresh air, exercise, healthy food, and let daddy do the playing. It could be worse, really. [/quote]

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