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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Also, to clarify, the housework all gets done, but I often don't do it during the day because I use my son's one 2 hour nap per day to either nap myself if I'm tired from the morning's activity, or do my own projects.  After my husband gets home from work (6 pm), he takes over childcare until bedtime (7:30 pm) and that's when I get most of the housework done, and after bedtime as well.  I love to clean and do housework so I consider this part of my alone time.

The kitchen/dishes I clean while my toddler is finishing lunch.  But I don't really get a chance to get laundry done or tidy/straighten until I have a period of time to myself.  I don't really see how anyone can get a lot of housework done while taking care of a young toddler at the same time.  We are out all morning at various activities, come home and I feed him lunch, then naptime, and then I have the afternoon and that entire time is devoted to entertaining my son.  Also, after the morning's activity (gym class or playgroup or whatever) I don't feel like going out again in the afternoon to do errands.  This is mainly because of the wear and tear on my back from the repetitive lifting and carrying (my 14 month old weighs over 30 pounds and it is very hard on my back when we are out).[/quote]

What activities are you doing with your child that take all morning? Mommy and me classes are typically no more than 45 minutes at that age. Also, you don't have to entertain your toddler every minute he's awake. It's good for him to learn to entertain himself a bit. Set up a toddler-proofed place in the house where he can play with some toys and it's easy for you to keep an eye on him, and get your chores done.[/quote]

OP here.  The classes/activities we do are 1.5 hours usually, plus 30 minutes to get there each way (we live in the suburbs).  With feeding breakfast before the class and the commute, then yes, all that does take all morning.[/quote]

Why do you choose to allow those classes and activities to take up that much of your time?[/quote]

OP here.  I really enjoy the classes and I love socializing with other moms.  We do a variety of morning activities--one day is playgroup, one day is gym class, and three days usually are the church Mommy and Me classes.  Playgroup usually runs for 2 hours.  We live in the suburbs so there is a significant drive to most of these things--at least 30 mintues each way.  Like I mentioned before, with breakfast and the drive, then yes our mornings are pretty full.[/quote]

This sounds nice, but you have to admit that a lot of your lack of time is a direct result of some of these relatively discretionary activities that you are doing. I don't think that there is anything wrong with doing them, but I can also see why your husband might be feeling a bit stressed and unable to understand why you can't give him a little time to himself. [/quote]

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