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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd find activities much closer to home. I live in the suburbs too and when my kids were under 3, we did activities within a 10 minute drive, max. When you say suburbs, are you really in an exurb or rural area? Church is a 30 minute drive?

Why did you decide to SAH in the first place, OP?[/quote]

OP here.  I've looked for closer activities and there really aren't many.  All the good activities seem to be farther away.  Which is fine, I don't mind and that's not the issue here anyway.  The issue is how can I get my husband more free time.

Why did I decide to stay at home in the first place?  So many reasons.  In no particular order:  a)  My husband works very long hours plus the weekend work so he is not home much, and my last job required 3 evening hours per week when I would get home at 9 pm.  Too stressful for me to keep that job with husband's hours; b) I never really liked any of the jobs I have had; c) My salary would have covered daycare or a nanny with little left over; d) I didn't want my child in daycare because I didn't want to be sick all the time or have my child be sick all the time since husband cannot take sick days easily and we have no local family for backup; e) I thought I would enjoy being a SAHM (which I do) and that it would suit me better than my career; f) thinking ahead to when our child is in full-time school I did not want the stress of finding summer care every summer since my job only gave me 2 weeks of vacation per year and husband cannot take vacation easily; g) I did not want to deal with caregiver stress--worrying about my child in daycare or with a nanny, and my husband has such a stressful job that I did not want him to be stressed about this; h) My husband is in a very family unfriendly job and cannot take days off for snow days/sick days, etc. and with no local family it would be too hard to always be finding backup babysitters for these days, and j) I felt that for the first year, at least, there were many benefits for my child of my staying home.  Now, however, I think he could really benefit from the socialization of a part-time daycare.[/quote]

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