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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm shocked at the perspectives shared so far.  Very enlightening for me, so I'm glad I stopped by to read.

I have not been in this situation, but I think I'd want to impart the value to my child that family comes before all else, including a sporting match.  I certainly would not want to be at my brother's wedding getting asked where my son was and saying "Oh he had a wrestling match."[/quote]

I'm the PP just below you, and I 100% agree.  And you managed to say it without profanity, so kudos to you.  I really am stunned that this would be okay for some families.

Then again, my BIL did not come to our wedding because he is a professional musician and his orchestra had rehearsal that week.  I still am pissed about that.  :-)[/quote]

Smiley or not you still are urked over it. Get over it, for such a joyous event people sure get bent out of shape for weddings.  [/quote]

Of course I am still irked.  It was a lovely, joyful day, and my BIL essentially told my brother that he could not miss a day of work to attend.  But he has missed days of work for his own other priorities.  And that's his choice, and he has shown us what his priorities are.  We still had a lovely time, but that doesn't mean that we can't be irked to know that we are not more important to his brother.  It's not a matter to "get over"...it's not like I'm grieving or crying over it.  But it has had a lasting effect of making me less interested in investing in a relationship with a BIL who doesn't consider us a very important part of his life.  [/quote]

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