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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you should take a stand against his behavior.  Make it clear now that you wont accept abusive behavior.  (And yes, in my opinion telling your pregnant wife to shut the fuck up in an aggressive way counts as emotional abuse).  This is an important time in your relationship- make it perfectly clear what you will accept.  Fly home and be around your family. I'm guessing they will make you feel a lot better and give you some clarity on the situation.

But definitely spend the night in the Marriot tonight. [/quote]

I didn't read the whole thread, but I have to agree wholeheartedly with getting a room and making it CRYSTAL CLEAR you will not accept being talked to like that.  PERIOD.  Whether you should fly home for the birth is up for argument, and I don't know about the whole situation to say what to do there.  But yes, get a room, refuse to continue interactions until he acknowledges what he did and apologizes.  And I would say very clearly that you consider it a deal-breaker if he talks to you and treats you like that.  That it is absolutely not acceptable.

My H did that the first 15 years of our marriage.  It was only every once in a while when he was under a lot of stress.  He would lash out at me and be nasty, demeaning, yelling.  I wrote it off to the fact that people do things under great stress.  I let it go, since he wasn't like that under normal circumstances.  Problem is, we have now hit a multi-year patch where he has been under bad stress the whole time, so guess what happens?  Then he treats me like that on a daily/almost daily basis.  Because it was already established that when under a lot of stress, it's okay to go off on me.  So now it's a full blown verbal/emotional abuse situation.  I feel that had I laid down the law when those occurrences were rare, we would not be in this situation now.[/quote]

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