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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I've been a MIL for a few weeks. They got married fairly quickly, and I don't really know DIL well. They also live hours away and I had a baby this fall, so it's not like I had a lot of spare time to get in their business.

DIL and ds have a pet they love, so I got her a gift card to a pet supply place, thinking she might enjoy getting some stuff for pet that she might otherwise not spend on (they are students so not much $). Ds got a gift card to a popular lower-cost casual clothing store, he needs some new jeans and stuff.

Ds informed me this morn that dil was hurt that I got something for ds to use for 'him', and something for her to use for 'beloved pet'.

holy crap, what do they expect me to do? I told him, switch the cards if you want, I thought her card was more personal than just getting a card to a random box store. In fact I had checked with ds as to what store they shop for pet at, and went out of my way to drive to the one nearest me to get the card (it was a few towns away).

I've been a really good DIL to my MIL and I have never once questioned any of the gifts she's given over the years, even the odd ones. This really hurts.[/quote]

Think how she feels.  You bought her a GC to a PET STORE.  Really, really strange gift, OP.  "Here's some $ to spend on your pet while your DH goes and shops for himself."

And, sorry, being a good DIL doesn't mean keeping your mouth shut.  So, you need to get over that.
I'm not sure I'd say or do anything at this point.  But, next year, use your brain and get a more thoughtful gift.[/quote]

OP has said they are broke students. OP has no idea what DIL likes, but she does know she loves her dog and probably can't afford to buy it a lot of frivolous stuff. Sounds like she used her brain just fine to me, DIL just didn't like it. And that's fine too, son shouldn't have said anything. But the OP did try to be thoughtful.[/quote]

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