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[quote=Anonymous]NP here and have not read other replies.

Just want to say that I think he could try going to school at night--you set the rules in advance of what will be tolerable to you.  Give yourselves a time limit and at that point, reassess.

I say this because I think if you go against him, it's going to ultimately negatively affect your marriage and in the end, you and your HS child won't get what you want anyways--which is his time, attention and affection.  It will be replaced with resentment toward you, and if you divorce, then the HSer won't get much of dad, period.

So either way you are going to get less of him, but if you go with it, OP, you may find your way together.

I did this in two (albeit smaller ways) with my DH.  The first was I am very much against running marathons (for health reasons, that's another topic).  DH wanted to get into them.  I decided I didn't want to hear about this when we were in our 80s, how but-for-me he would have run marathons.  So we compromised, just one marathon.  He did it, it's off his list, and I've never heard about him running one again.

The second was that we were living on the west coast and very settled in, great schools, friends, near my family, everything going well, and someone offers him a job out here in DC.  It was very hard to support coming out here with him, uprooting the kids, etc--and it also took him off his usual career track--it's sort of a deviation, an investment if you will, and the $$ went down by 2/3.  But I did it and we are much stronger for it; he gets that I did the leap-of-faith part for him and it bonded us even tighter.  Funny thing is, now I like it out here.

So, in sum, not just for him, but also looking at it from the angle of what's best for you and your HSer, I think you should let him do it, OP.[/quote]

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