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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He says yes.  I say no.  I work full time and we have a two year old.  [/quote]

The summer my husband interned at a big law firm downtown, he realized that every male partner was on his second wife/family--none of their first marriages had survived. [b]He decided to apply for the DOH honors program instead, because he wanted to be a parent more than he wanted to be a partner. Priorities[/b].[/quote]

I am guessing you mean DOJ, and mine did too, and works 70 hour weeks as a trial lawyer/deputy chief in a very busy section. I am the default parent at a big law job (part time). So -- one size doesn't really fit all, KWIM? Many type A people stretch a job to fit their ambition/comfort level. Not saying that is optimal, but your experience is not the gold standard. There is more than one way to "be a parent". [/quote]

Well, as another PP described it, "As a law firm partner, his clients come first so by definition he cannot commit to any family obligations."

I certainly think my standard for who is a parent is a lot better than that one. [/quote]

well, of course. But for many government lawyers, the case comes first, too. It has little to do with the job, more to do with the person.[/quote]

In any case, pp, what your spouse did is not relevant.  OP chose to have a child with her DH, who appears to have most certainly been committed to the partner track when she became pregnant.  OP never mentions wanting DH to change jobs, only that she doesn't want to be default parent.  Sometimes we can get everything we want.[/quote]

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