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But you are not going to have a great relationship with every person - whether they are your mother in law or not. I think what you need to focus on is why you have such a hard time letting go of the idea that you would have had a great relationship but for this incident. Yes, the behavior of both your MIL and DH strikes me as inappropriate (especially your DH, but her as well). But it seems to me from your postings that it is unlikely that anything can be done to resolve your issues with MIL - and that is fine. But I do think it would be helpful for you to speak to someone to figure out how to move forward productively and not dwell on it, whether or not you wind up being close with her. You are expending a lot of emotional energy being upset about this, and it doesn't seem that you are getting much benefit from it.

lol @ the evidence of expending emotional energy being because I posted to DCUM about it and paid a lot of attention to my thread today. Isn't the standard for posting to DCUM about something much lower than that?  [/quote]

Ok, then, if you are not worried about it, I'm not sure why you posted in the first place, but if that's the case, I presume you don't need any more advice.
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I can't believe that I have read this entire thread.  OP, why don't you just confront your MIL about this.  I mean you obviously have no problem expressing yourself and making your stance known on integrity, honesty and deception.  Just talk to her about this whole thing.  Maybe print out this thread so that you can remember specific points in your feelings.  Then you can maybe get some closure and you also can get her perspective on the situation.  It may also give you the opportunity to start over with her.  You say you are dealing with this proactively with DH, so now move on to MIL.  You say you can't trust her and that you are sad for the relationship that could have been, well give her and yourself a do over.  If you want to be so honest, then be honest with her.  Tell her how hurt you are over this "deception".  I mean the relationship can't get any worse right?
Man, I can't win with you guys :)

How about this - I care about it and want things to be improved, but I don't think the fact that I'm posting about it today is evidence that I am OMGZ OBSESSED, I thought that suggestion was funny.[/quote][/quote]

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