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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it. My xMIL does the same thing. We live in a very small apartment, but she insists on getting HUGE gifts that we literally don't have room for. And then I'm the bad guy because I have to say no or give it away. 
I sew and have for years. Most of what's in my kid's room is handmade. She retires, suddenly learns to sew and we're inundated with things that are explicitly meant to replace what we already have (she has said that exactly). She is completely trying to one-up me.

I do my best to let it go, bc I know that she feels bad that her son is no longer in DC's life and she's overcompensating to make up for it. I also try and channel the gift giving in an appropriate way (I only have to buy 5-6 items of kid clothing each year thanks to 3 sets of competing grandparents), but at a certain point it gets overwhelming. And it's hard to counteract the "gimmes" in young kids when they know that Grandma is waiting in the wings if Mom says no. I bite my tongue a lot and tell myself that it's important for them to have a relationship and it will self correct over time, since money =\= quality time.

Oh, I have learned to say no to things as well. DC and I purge his room every other month, he's usually tired of the plastic, super commercial/branded stuff by about a month anyway. [/quote]

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