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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks everyone I think I have all I need, and this thread keeps veering off into the strange and nasty so I'll let it end here.

I need to try to figure out a schedule for counseling and get that going, we are both willing to go so that shouldn't be a problem. I'll meet with a lawyer and then a financial advisor with and without my DH, formulate a plan for retirement and college savings, and so forth. Hopefully after seeing all the numbers my DH will not be so over zealous about the spending on gifts and come back down to earth. The best advice I was given financially from colleagues was to live like a resident for at least 5 years on your new salary, they mostly say it to those with the 150-200k debt but maybe I can use to set up my emergency fund/retirement etc.

I don't want to rush a divorce right now, because I think there is still a lot of love still between us, and I'm feeling optimistic that counseling can help resolve our issues. I will bite the bullet on alimony if we do end up divorcing, I know if it comes to that my DH will have the kids and need the financial support without a doubt. If we stay together and he persists with the financial decisions he wants to make I will separate our finances. As a pp said above, this will likely not go well with him because of the principle of it, but if he wants to stay together it will be a choice he has to make. We have some time before the change, I'll be better to asses his motives or lack there of and my position.

To the pp above, I am not sure if we have the time, or if I can take time off to have a worthwhile vacation, and in all honesty we can't afford it right now. I'll have to look into that, I'm sure it would help.

This thread has definitely made me see a bit more clear. Ultimately I think I do want my DH around a lot when the kids become school aged, maybe not a SAHM dad (perception sets are hard to change), but maybe working from home or going after a business venture that will allow flexibility. Letting go of the need for ambition will probably help to change my attitude towards him. I'll leave the other things to counseling.

Thanks again! [/quote]

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