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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd say inappropriate and a bad parenting choice.  (I mean how many of us are actually in huts, PP?)  But not abusive - at most you'd scare your baby if s/he woke up.  That said,[b] I really cannot fathom why anyone would have sex with baby in the *same bed*[/b] given that 99% of the PPs likely have a sofa in another room (and probably another bed somewhere in the house).[/quote]

I spoke with my DH about this thread last night and he thinks couples who do this actually "get off" on the fact they have the kid in the bed.  Thats what makes this so sick to me.  Most people would not even be able to get in the mood with a child in the bed...let alone in the same room.

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While I do not doubt that there may be some individuals who find such a thing to be a turn on, I really don't think that's the case with the vast majority of posters who have said that they have had sex in the same vicinity as their child. I had sex in my bed while my 3 month old was sleeping in her cosleeper attached to the bed. I also had sex in a hotel room when she was sleeping on the second bed.

I am one of the two mandated reporters who has been commenting on this thread, and I really hope that people develop a slightly more nuanced understanding of human behavior and what constitutes abuse than they have demonstrated on this thread. A couple TTC while their child is sleeping nearby is not "so sick" and if they have ulterior motives, certainly "getting off because their kid is watching" is a lot lower on the list than "conceive a child".

As I said earlier this morning, the universe between what some people consider to be gross or inappropriate and what rises to the legal standard of actionable child abuse is a fairly diverse one. I don't make a habit out of having sex while my child is nearby, but apparently to you, even doing it one time is "so sick" and abusive.[/quote]

NP, and not only am I still a mandated reporter, I worked for CPS for more than 10 yrs.  You are absolutely right PP.  I haven't read this whole thread, but after reading some of these responses on the last page, just wanted to chime in with this PP.  It may seem like a very poor parenting choice to many, but having sex in the same bed as a sleeping baby is so far from actual child abuse, it's absolutely NOT actionable.  [/quote]

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