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[quote=Anonymous][quote]The only real pertinent issue, OP, is that you told him he could bring a +1. He is being a +1. End of story.

--His relationship with this person is none of your business. 
--Who he gets an allowance from is not your business and irrelevant. 
--The price of the one meal you will you have to add is irrelevant because you already told us the money isn't the issue. 
--How well you do or don't know her is irrelevant because you told him he could bring a +1. You didn't give him rules about who he could bring. 
--Your judgment about him and gossiping with your family about him and his +1 is pretty mean.

You're being unreasonable, OP. Get over and get over it quick so you can be gracious to your brother, his guest, and everyone else who is going to spend time and money to celebrate you and your fiancé.

OP here- I didn't make the allowance my business. I mentioned it b/c someone asked if there were other underlying issues. When fiance and i got engaged, my brother told my parents "i hope this doesn't mean you are going to cut me off to pay for her wedding." HE said that. He has never called to congratulate us, wish us well, or ask if he could help in any way. His primary concern is making sure he did not get cut off. It's clear that I have regarded him as a freeloader in other aspects of life, which, in my opinion, once again manifested here. I didn't assume my parents would give anything, and unlike my brother, I don't feel a sense of ownership over my parents' money.

I find him unreasonable re: many things, but he is family. Like I said before, his +1 will be a welcomed guest at all the events of the weekend. I was just coming here to see what other people thought and get other opinions. I plan to have a lovely weekend with my family and a long, happy marriage with my DH to be.
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You are being disingenuous here, OP. You did make his allowance your business the minute you posted it here as a factor. It isn't a factor here. You are using it as a compounding factor to all your other complaints about him...he didn't wish you well, congratulate you, or act in a way that you wanted him to act. You are sharing all these details to support your reasons for wanting to be aggrieved that he is bringing a +1 who you don't approve of.

We get it. You think he is a freeloader. You don't like him. You think this is a valid reason for going back on your word that he can being a +1 to your wedding.

Sorry, it doesn't work that way.

You are in the wrong.[/quote]

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