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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is the first single mom to respond to you in this topic. In case it came out that way, I did NOT mean to hold off on dating. I meant that finding a relationship is alot easier once your kid is low maintenance (potty trained, no need for naps and staying on a schedule, can withstand long periods of time out and about). Babies and toddlers take a lot of time and attention. I actually dated a patient guy during those years, while nursing, and I fell asleep on him twice. Once in a movie theatre and the other time after he cooked dinner and was downstairs cleaning dishes. He was a good guy (and single, no kids) so I know from experience that there are guys who will seek a relationship with you anyway. However, chances are that you will have to meet them when you're away from your kid. I met that guy in a club on a Saturday night. The other women I know who have been successful with really young kids have joint custody or relatives who babysit frequently. A toddler in tow usually signals to a guy that there is a man in your life.

My DC will be 5 this year and I have definitely noticed a big difference. For one, it seems plausible to men now that I'm actually single when we're out together. I get approached alot more often with DC with me now. In our neighborhood, at the airport, at the pool, while on vacation. And guys will use DC as a conversation starter. Before, I usually met guys while out with friends/work, online or through hookups (my friends' husbands should charge lol). The guys who approached when I had an infant/toddler with me were usually not quality guys.

[b]I agree with a PP who has other single mom friends whose lives are all wrapped in their identities as moms. They tend to hang out with other (often married) moms and participate in kid-focused activities. I liken them to some single childless friends who want to get married yet aren't proactive in the least about it. They don't agree with online dating, they won't update their look because a man should accept them as is, they don't keep in shape, and prefer to hang out in groups of women primarily. Single men aren't usually hanging at Gymboree[/b].[/quote]

This pretty much describes me. I never thought of it so bluntly before. Thanks I guess?[/quote]

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