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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't seen any comments that raising children together is easy. Of course it's a challenge. It's not for everyone. [/quote]

Of course it is a challenge - even when the biological parents are together and raising them; it is a particular challenge for step-parents, and even more of one for step-parents who are not parents themselves.  The OP asked why she was having a challenge meeting single men as a single mother - this is one direct, on point answer as to why.  It's not an "all women are [evil|bitches|sluts|blah,blah,blah]" answer.  Perhaps the OP can think about strategies or minimize or mitigate those issues.

The practical advice to the OP is: focus on single fathers who are more likely to be open to and understanding of your particular circumstances, whether or not they have full or even majority custody.  Also: date your prospective partner for a long time before introducing and mixing children into it.  That is the exact advice I'd give my daughter or sister and I would encourage them to find a partner - raising a child alone is a hell of a job.  [/quote]

You seem like a lovely person.  Very sound advice.  Yes, raising a child(ren) alone is a hell of a job.  I did it alone, made the decision not to date because I didn't want to bring any unnecessary drama into my children's lives.  Also, I didn't have the extra energy or funds to date so I focused on maintaining my household and raising my children.  I figured if I took care of myself I could find a companion or husband later in life once they were out of my nest.  Ha!  In a few years my youngest will take off for college.

I agree it's important to really take the time to get to know a prospective partner and not bring him around your child before you have thoroughly vetted him, regardless of how "nice and kind" he seems.  Usually, it takes at least a year of really getting to know someone before potential problems or personality issues are revealed.      [/quote]

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