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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to practice your psychic skills[/quote]

Um, yeah, and you need to practice your vocabulary - that would be psychiatric not psychic - and...

[quote]Maybe you confuse casual sex with confidence?[/quote]

...what the heck has 'confidence' got to do with it?

[quote]I lost my virginity in college to my college sweetheart which is exactly what I planned to do and what most of my friends at the time did. In my social circle, sex before college was uncommon, and at 14 would have been seen as rash. Wanting to have sex at 14 might be physiological normal, but emotionally and socially, the late teens are a better time. Most of my friends --male or female-- lost their virginity to people they had been dating for an extended period of time and were in love with. No one I knew then did it at age 14 as a hookup to shed their "v card". Even now, now of my friends have ever said they were having sex in their early teens.

I have a college age daughter and she knows people who were having sex at 14 or younger. But in her social circle, it was more of a late teens thing (junior or senior year of HS) and again with a long-term dating partner. She knows many people who were virgins in college, even a few beyond freshman year. Some of these virgins were/are male. None were/are dying the social death that Eliot Rodgers imagined.[/quote]

All of which are examples of people having sexual intercourse LONG BEFORE their late 30s...as an earlier poster said, almost two decades earlier.

14 is certainly at the younger end of the bell curve, and I actually agree that mid-late teenage years (end of HS, early college) are at the middle of the curve, but 14 is a hell of a lot closer to it than late 30s.  I also agree that most people are better emotionally prepared by their late teens to engage in sex than they are in their early teens.

But, before you start tossing bricks and insulting people over their 'values' and 'morals' - there is nothing particularly morally wrong about liking sex - you might at least consider making your own arguments logically consistent.  You yourself admit to having pre-marital sex in your teens.  This is a thread about people who maintain their virginity into their late thirties.  To each their own, but statistically (you know, objective reality) they are the "freaks" if one defines that by 'normative' behavior.

NB - the people who claim virginity because they only do everything [i]except[/i] PIV are only deluding themselves.  The Saddle-backers are the most hilariously self-deluded hypocrites. Google it if you don't know the phrase.[/quote]

I really did mean psychic as in you are trying to guess what I am like without knowing anything else about me. I'm actually not worried about anyone's religious values but I do think that there is something special about sharing one's body with others. I guess I am the sexual equivalent if a gourmet rather than a gourmand.

I think that you are taking this very personally and I'm not sure why. [/quote]

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