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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.. interesting how the responses changed when the thread was moved to Family Relationships (which is where I thought I had originally posted, oops).

Joint party was never going to happen.  Aiden doesn’t care, he’s 3, the party is 7 weeks after his birthday, he’s never going to even connect the two events.  Joint party was also never going to happen because DH and I don’t want one, and we get to choose these things.  What if Aiden’s friend was having this party instead of his cousin?  Should he be automatically included as a birthday kid just because “it’s not fair” otherwise?

Jen never had a party planned, therefore she didn’t cancel a party.  She asked around because she was thinking of doing something for Aiden, then latched on to Isabelle’s party.  She sent out evites to be passive-aggressive and garner sympathy, then “cancelled” the party so she could blame it on me.  Isabelle is not a future Bridezilla (funny, you want to talk about Bridezillas… let me tell you about Jen’s wedding…)  Aiden will probably not have an official 3rd birthday "party," and he will be completely happy.  As I said, they went on an overnight trip to an event that was specifically for him, and I’m certain they had some kind of immediate-family-only celebration with a cupcake or whatever and sang to him.  He had his moment on his birthday, and loved it, and has moved on.  No, kids don't NEED brithday parties and if there was an event that Isabelle loved that corresponded with her birthday, we might have made the same choice.  But that doesn't mean I would then decide that Aiden's birthday party now has to be a joint party because Isabelle didn't get one.

This is all pretty typical when dealing with Jen—“What, all I asked you to do was completely change your plans to accommodate me.  Why are you making it so hard?  Why can’t you just do it and keep the peace.”  Jen has many, many options that don't include a joint party or having a party on this particular weekend.  We're already a month plus out.  She has another kid's birthday in August, why not give THEM a joint party?
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OP, there is something wrong with hashing this all out on DCUM. Weird. Very, very weird.[/quote]

You're so right pp. Nobody ever posts here about their issues with family.[/quote]

To the degree of detail, vehemence and continued engagement as OP? If she isn't immersing herself (and an anonymous online forum!!) in heavy family drama then I don't know what else to say. She's never going to be able to deal when her kid gets older and we're talking about something beyond a 3-year-old's birthday party and her horrible, bitchy (who is the one REALLY into drama, apparently  :roll:  ) It is weird to have this much back and forth and explanation and defense and angst on a thread with strangers.
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