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It is not indefensible to express a desire to have children, and I didn't say it was.  And BTW, I don't believe you....I think you did post the post I responded to.

What IS  indefensible is the attitude of "oh well, husbands come and go, but children are forever" as if husbands can simply be thrown away when they don't amuse us anymore.  That is a shallow as hell view of marriage, whether you are traditional/religious/conservative or not.  And if that's how you feel about your husband, don't think for one minute that he doesn't know it.  It's an utterly selfish view of marriage that renders you obviously incapable of sustaining one.[/quote]
Believe her. That wasn't her.  That was me, "husbands come and go" poster.

You are being hypocritical.  The refusal to have children is not exactly like a shirt color that's not to your liking. This has nothing to do with amusement.  This has everything to do with the fundamental discrepancy in the vision of the future - the vision that was once shared, and now is not, and for you to tell the OP to sit down and shut up and be grateful is...I dunno...unimaginative.

I will also tell you this.  You think your commitment to your husband is unconditional? It isn't.  Your husband simply hasn't taken you to your breaking point. Everybody has one. For OP and me, that breaking point is near the refusal to have children.  Maybe for you or others it would be near adultery, theft, murder, cruelty, whatever.  But don't kid yourself: you have a breaking point. If you don't yet know where it is, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. [/quote]

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