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[quote=Anonymous]Yes OP, hang in there.  I share much of your background and have two children, older, whom DH feels have fallen very short of his expectations.  Both have strengths, but not in areas he values much.  This has affected his whole outlook on life.  In my view he has made the choice to be unhappy because his children have not lived up to what he wanted.

I am much more relaxed and really enjoy the ways DC are different from me.  I have seen DD at a family gathering with her Ivy league cousins and she is the one that people flock to for her charm.  Not me at all! And the wonder of it amazes me.  DS has always struggled with health issues and his childhood was no picnic because of it, but he bears not the slightest hint of resentment or "life isn't fairism" about it.  What an example!

Long ago, when DS was young and struggling I read a parable.  You had planned a trip to Italy, studied up on its history, and even learned a lot of phrases.  When you stepped off the plane, you were in Amsterdam, not Rome.  You could spend your trip cursing your travel agent or you could say, well the Netherlands is not Italy, but it has great museums, wonderful bicycling, and fun cafes along canals and have a good time anyway.

OP, you have found yourself in the Netherlands.  Enjoy![/quote]

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