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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is an only child. His father and I both have very high IQs, went to ivies, and were pretty successful in school without much effort (lots of academic honors, consistently high test scores, etc.). One of us was also a competitive athlete. DS does not seem to have an aptitude in academics or athletics - nor art, music, etc. He does not stand out at anything. I love him dearly and try really really hard not to let any disappointment show, but I can't understand why he doesn't seem to shine in anything his father or I did, or anything of his own. I admit the academics is the hardest for me to accept. I feel like all of my friends have one child whose strength may be academics, and then their second isn't as bright but is a gifted soccer player for example. So I am very worried that I pin all of my hopes on my one child and he could never live up to it all. I feel awful that I feel this way, and I know I will get flamed, but can anyone offer me some wisdom to help me accept and cherish my child as he is. [/quote]

Ok, above is the OP's original post, with some select quotes:

"I can't understand why he doesn't seem to shine in anything his father or I did, or anything of his own."
"So I am very worried that I pin all of my hopes on my one child and he could never live up to it all. "
"I feel like all of my friends have..."
Lovely stuff, huh?
I never said I was perfect - in fact, far from it.  But, at least I know it.  Meanwhile, if the OP was so Ivy-smart, she should simply re-read her own words. There are lots of use of the word "I".  Yet, there is no use of the word "us", or "we".  Thus there has apparently been no discussion with her spouse about this. So, it seems the OP carries this dilemma all on her own, sad-ass shoulders. The problem is 100% the OP's, not her son's fault. 
OP, why not get another job, volunteer your own time, pick up a hobby, do anything to avoid "pinning all your hopes " on your child. No kid could ever meet your immense expectations, resume and body of work. He is 12 for God's sake. [/quote]

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