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[quote=Anonymous]I am very much pro choice but I too would like to find ways to encourage more women to consider putting their babies up for adoption.  We are lucky and able to concieve with one round of IVF.  We did look into adopting and were bascially told that if we wanted 1) an infant 2) a healthy infant and 3) a healhty white infant (we are white)..then we need to be prepared for a nationwide search and upwards of 75k in legal fees, be prepared to take up residency requirements in another state if needed, allow some openess even "visitation" with birth mother and most painful of all, depending on the state, be prepared to hand the baby back over in three months.  The whole process is a nightmare and even if we did throw that much money at the adoption it could still take 3-5 years.   Yes, of course people told us to adopt frm foster care. But most kids in foster care are actually not eligible for adoption. Worse, you get completely attached and then you know they are going to be taken away and put rigght back in an abusive home.   I thank god everyday for my daughter.    At this point, I think we need to 1) limit the time a birth mother can change her mind-maybe 3 days instead of 3 months and 2) just call a spade a spade and pay the birth mother and not pretend its just "expenses"-....  If 1000 white infants were available tomorrow for adoption, I know every single one would be adopted in a day or so.  Same for AA infants...but a lot of folks don't allow for interacial adoptions. The whole systems is excruciating and painful. [/quote]

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